The Husband and Wife Relationship is the Building Block of the Family

The husband and wife relationship is the building block of the family. Think about it. In the garden, even though God had created all kinds of animals, there was no-one like Adam, he was alone. God, however, determined that being alone wasn’t good for Adam, so God created Eve. Eve was Adam’s wife and helper, not just his lover or financial partner. She was to help Adam fill, subdue, and have dominion over the earth.

On the backbone of their relationship, Adam and Eve started a family. But it was their relationship with each other that was first. Which means it was their relationship with each other that needed to be healthy before any other relationship could. I believe one author captures the necessity of a healthy marriage relationship well when he says,

“Marriage has the power to set the course of your life as a whole. If your marriage is strong, even if all the circumstances in your life around you are filled with trouble and weakness, it won’t matter. You will be able to move out into the world in strength. However, if your marriage is weak, even if all the circumstances in your life around you are marked by success and strength, it won’t matter. You will move out into the world in weakness. Marriage has that kind of power — the power to set the course of your whole life. It has that power because it was instituted by God. And because it has that unequalled power, it must have an unequalled, supreme priority.” –  The Meaning of Marriage, 131.

If there is one relationship, besides our relationship with God, that we need to get right, it is our relationship with our husband or wife. It has the power to build us up or tear us down.

Question for Reflection

  1. How is your relationship with your spouse?

Resources

Post adapted from my sermon A Wife’s Submission and a Husband’s Love

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Why Jesus is Enough

In Colossians, Paul is dealing with false teachers. Focusing on the big picture, what we see is that these false teachers were adding something to the gospel. They required the Colossians to do more than believe in Jesus in order to be saved.

Here is the thing, however, when we add something to the gospel, we are really subtracting from it. Christ plus something = nothing. In other words, Christ plus something = no salvation.

Why does Christ plus something = nothing?

The salvation God provides through Jesus is by grace alone. No works are required. Paul says in Ephesians 2:8-9,

“For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.” (Eph 2:8–9)

Grace by definition excludes works, so much so that if you add one work to grace, then it’s no longer grace that you are saved by but works. Paul makes this clear in Romans 11:6 when he says,

“But if it is by grace, it is no longer on the basis of works; otherwise grace would no longer be grace.” (Ro 11:6)

It is crucial that we get this point because our eternal destiny hangs on it. If you add just one work to grace, it means you aren’t being saved by grace, but by your works. Our own works can’t provide us with salvation (Gal. 2:16). Only the work of Jesus can provide salvation. Only the pure gospel saves.

You can think about like this. If you were to add one drop of poison to a glass of pure water, you could no longer say that that was a glass of pure water. Instead, you would have to say it is a glass of poisoned water. One that might look like it would save you from thirst and dehydration, but in reality, would kill you.

It is the same way with grace. When we add just one human work to salvation, the gospel of grace becomes poisoned, so that when you drink of it, it no longer saves, but kills. Sure it might look like it provides salvation, just like the glass of poisoned water looks like it will refresh, but it won’t. That’s because Jesus plus something = nothing, but Jesus plus nothing = everything.

I know the idea that we are saved by grace alone baffles us at times and I know it is hard for us to get past the idea that we don’t have to perform any works to be saved. Paul, however, couldn’t be clearer. Jesus’ work alone is sufficient for life and godliness. I know it’s hard to believe, but it’s true. Jesus is enough!

Questions for Reflection

  1. Do you believe Jesus’ work is enough for salvation?
  2. Even though you heard the idea that you are saved by grace alone a thousand times, do you still find yourself practically acting as if you have to do something in order to be saved?

Resources

Post adapted from my sermon Jesus is enough

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Worship Should Drive Us to Missions

Worship which does not beget witness is hypocrisy. We cannot acclaim the worth of God if we have no desire to proclaim it.

Question for Reflection

  1. Does your worship drive you to missions?

Resources

John Stott in The Mission of God’s People by Christopher Wright

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Spiritual Warfare in Marriage, Family, and Vocation

It is significant that Paul’s classic exposition of spiritual warfare comes immediately after his instructions about Christians living in marriage, family and the workplace. In all these realms, there is a battle to be fought if we are to be able “to stand” (rather than sink or swim with the tide), and to fulfill our role as messengers of the “gospel of peace” (Eph. 6:15, echoing Isa. 52:7).

Question for Reflection

  1. Do you find there is always a battle to be fought in these areas of your life?

Resources

The Mission of God’s People by Christopher Wright

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The Joy of Fervent Prayer

Until now you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be full.” (Jn 16:24)

The sentence teaches us that the joy and happiness of believers admit of degrees, and may be fuller at one time than at another. It also teaches that the joy of a believer depends much on his fervency and earnestness in prayer. He that prays little and coldly must not expect to know much of ‘joy and peace in believing.’

Question for Reflection

  1. Does your prayer life lead to joy?

Resources

J.C. Ryle, John Vol. 3, 118.

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Men, Don’t Make Your Wife Lead Your Family!

Unfortunately, many women become the leaders of their families by default because their husbands have either deserted the home or abdicated their God-given responsibility to lead. This is another side of the impact of the fall.

C.S. Lewis observes that most women instinctively understand that there is something wrong when they must be in charge.

“There must be something unnatural about the rule of wives over husbands, because the wives themselves are half ashamed of it and despise the husbands whom they rule.”

When those who are called to be in leadership vacate the role, they leave a vacuum that must be filled by another. Why is this the case? Leadership is difficult. Leadership is a responsibility, and sinful selfishness resists responsibility or accountability. “Paradoxically,” says Ash,

“it may not be the challenges of secular feminisim that pose the greatest threat to God’s order of marriage, but the pathetic abdications of sinful males who will not take upon ourselves our God-given reponsbility to exercise headship in our marriages and in our home.”

The way to relieve our wives of the temptation to take over is to recognize that leadership is our responsibility and to step up in obedience to be the loving, sacrificial leaders he has called us to be.

Question for Reflection

  1. Men, are you leading your family to know God, accomplish His purposes, and glorify Him?

Resources

The Shepherd Leader at Home, Timothy Witmer, 85

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