The Wisdom to Avoid Sexual Temptation

Temptation

Sexual sin is a major problem in our society. It is not just a problem for those outside the church. Both those in and out of the church deal with lust, pornography, and sexual temptation. So how do we combat sexual sin?

We need wisdom. Wisdom found in God’s Word. Proverbs promises us we “will be delivered from the forbidden woman, from the adulteress” when we have wisdom (Prov. 2:16). Wisdom delivers us because it allows us to see the temptress as God sees them; it allows us to see their tactics, true character, and end result.

The Tactics of the Temptress

Sin is appealing, especially sexual sin. The strange woman knows that so she uses her outward beauty, charm, and sensual pleasures to attract us. She flatters us. Promises fun and excitement.

The True Character of the Temptress

Wisdom allows us to put on spiritual spectacles and observe the true character of our temptress. When we do, we see their character doesn’t match their alluring outward beauty.

Proverbs 2:17 reveals that the adulteress woman is not faithful. She is not faithful to men, nor to God. She is a quitter. Someone who jumps from one person to the next. So we shouldn’t be shocked when she leaves us. Especially, if she was willing to break up our relationship.

I am not just picking on woman. Woman too need to be careful. If a man was willing to leave his wife for them, they shouldn’t be shocked when years later he leaves them for another woman. Those who aren’t faithful will not stay.

Our faithfulness starts with our relationship with God. Those who forget God to seek their own pleasures shouldn’t be allowed to capture our heart. If someone refuses to follow God, they are not candidates for lasting relationships.

The End Result of the Temptress

Your sex life may start out in the clouds, but it will end in the grave. We are told,

Her house sinks down to death, and her paths to the departed; none who go to her come back, nor do they regain the paths of life” (Prov. 2:18-19)

Those who take the bait will die. You can’t wander off the path thinking you can come back anytime you like. Once caught in the trap everything is ruined. Your family, your relationships, your career, your reputation all ruined by the temptress.

Not to mention those who continue to follow her, who live in unrepentant sin, will be judged by God and will not gain eternal life. Sexual sin is serious. Hebrews 13:4 says,

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

Conclusion

When we struggle with lust, we shouldn’t just pray for deliverance, we should also remember who the temptress is. When we see the temptress as she really is, she shouldn’t be a threat to us. Instead, we should be repulsed when we remember her true character and the consequences of her seduction.

Question for Reflection

  1. How do you avoid sexual temptation?

Resource

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The Meaning of Marriage

Today I want to highlight a video webcast on Tim and Kathy Keller’s new book The Meaning of Marriage. In this book and webcast, Tim and Kathy tackle the preconceived notions people in our culture have about marriage setting those next to the Christian view of marriage, in order to provide today’s singles and married couples with the correct view of marriage. The book is excellent, as well as this video webcast. Check it out by clicking the code below, when you do another window will open with the full size video in it.

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Head or Heart Knowledge?

I recently went to The Gospel Coalition Conference in Chicago, where I attended a dinner, and received 19 free books. Yeah, I know, it was pretty awesome! Five of the books happened to be the Essential Edwards Collection by Doug Sweeney and Owen Strachan. This set is an excellent look into the life and writings of Jonathan Edwards. You can check them out here.

In the first book, Lover of God, this quote appears by Jonathan Edwards:

“He that is spiritually enlightened truly apprehends and sees it, or has a sense of it. He does not merely rationally believe that God is glorious, but he has a sense of the gloriousness of God in his heart. There is not only a rational belief that God is holy…but there is a sense of the loveliness of God’s holiness. There is not only a speculatively judging that God is gracious, but a sense how amiable God is upon that account, or a sense of the beauty of this divine attribute (Works 17, 413)” (Essential Edwards Collection, 34).

Explanation

Edwards is distinguishing between an intellectual knowledge and a heart knowledge of God. He believes intellectual knowledge of God without heart knowledge is no real knowledge at all.

You see, you can define premillennialism, postmillennialism, and amillennialism better than anyone in the field; beat everyone in the church in a Bible drill, including the pastor himself; have the entire Pentateuch memorized in Hebrew, and still not have a personal relationship with the Lord.

Knowing the Lord should involve more than our mind. Knowing the Lord should involve our entire being. It should involve our mind, emotions, and soul. We should truly delight in God, knowing that He is our Savior. Just the thought of His Son willingly enduring the cross for our sins, should send us to our knees to praise Him. Pondering His attributes should cause us to fear Him, while at the same time bringing sheer joy to our souls. We should take delight in reading His word and seeking His face in prayer because He is our Lord and Savior, the Creator of the universe, and the One in whom we find our strength and rest.

Let’s Get Real

If you have never felt a sense of pure joy at the thought of Him saving you from the pits of hell, praised Him for His divine attributes, or even thanked Him for the roof over your head, the job you have, the money in the bank, and the food you eat, then you may need to rethink your relationship with the Lord.

Challenge

I invite you, as we speak, to take an honest look at your relationship with the Lord. That is what Jonathan Edwards did, and His life changed for all eternity.

God and Christians, What is Their Relationship Like?

Have you every wondered what type of fellowship Christians have with God on the basis of Christ’s sacrifice? Have you been looking for motivation to pray throughout the day?

I have been reading a book entitled Taking Hold of God: Reformed and Puritan Perspectives on Prayer. This weekend I came across a list by Matthew Henry explaining the availability of God to the Christian, which occurs on the basis of Christ’s atoning sacrifice.

Read along as we explore the nature of the relationship Christians have with God through Christ.

Christians enjoy:

(1) A companion ready in all their solitudes, so that they are never less alone than when alone. Do we need better society than fellowship with the Father?

(2) A counsellor ready in all their doubts,…a guide (Ps. 73:24), who has promised to direct with his eye, to lead us in the way wherein we should go.

(3) A comforter ready in all their sorrows…[to] support sinking spirits, and be the strength of a fainting heart.

(4) A supply ready in all their wants. They that have access to God have access to a full fountain, an inexhaustible treasure, a rich mine.

(5) A support ready under all their burdens. They have access to him as Adonai [my Lord], my stay and the strength of my heart (Ps. 73:26).

(6) A shelter ready in all their dangers, a city of refuge near at hand. The name of the Lord is a strong tower (Prov. 18:10).

(7) Strength ready for all their performances in doing work, fighting work. He is their arm every morning (Isa. 33:2).

(8) Salvation insured by a sweet and undeceiving earnest…If he thus guides us by his counsel he will receive us to glory.

Application

As you can see, God is fully available to us as Christians. God’s availability and the nature of our relationship with Him should drive us to pray to Him. We should go to God everyday, seeking His strength, shelter, support, supply, comfort, counsel, and companionship.

Resource

Joel R. Beeke and Brian Najapfour, Taking Hold of God: Reformed and Puritan Perspectives on Prayer, 143-44.